Today makes two weeks since I had my surgery and things have been really rough. I had a c-section with Hunter so I was expecting pain similar to a c-section, but not this bad. I have had good days and bad days, but I feel that I am on the upper end of recovery now.
I am one who is very independent and not use to people waiting on me at all. Surgery has definitely changed that. Everyone has had to wait on me and at first it was pretty nice, now enough is enough and I'm ready to get back to my old self. I have a better appreciation of my job prior to surgery. Stephen has told everyone that he also has a better appreciation of the things that I do because he has had to play Mr. Mom. I'm sure it is like any job if you trade jobs you will have a better appreciation for your own job. He has made up his mind and said he does not want to be a stay at home dad.
My whole family has been great throughout this surgery/recovery process. I could not ask for a better husband. I knew that before surgery, but he is amazing. He has had to put me in check when I think I can do more than I can handle, cook dinner, baths, laundry, dishes, get the boys to games and practices, take care of me, work his full time job, and I could go on and on. Never once has he complained he just keeps on going. When I am down he wipes my tears and reminds me that a month from now I will feel better than I did before. He gives me his sweet smile and I know things will be fine. I love that man more than ever, he truly is the absolute best!
My boys have been great as well. Brian has taken Hunter back and forth to school, made some dinners, cleaned up the house, and taken care of me. When he is around he tends to baby me by pushing in the recliner for me and asking me constantly "Do you need anything Heather?" He even took care of me the first night in the hospital. Austin has picked up where I have left off as well. When I ask him to do something, he actually does not complain now. He helps Hunter and when I was in the hospital Hunter had a really hard time with me being gone so his Bubbie was there to play with him and keep his mind off of Mommy not being home. Hunter has vacuumed, washed and dried clothes, put the dishes in the dishwasher away, loaded the dishwasher, fed the animals, helped me walk around, and just gave me snuggles and love when I needed them. What 5 year old knows how to do laundry? Mine. Stephen bought me a new washer and dryer (which is really nice) so Hunter has learned how to start both appliances. That kid amazes me with his intelligence!
We had made arrangements prior to surgery that Hunter was going to stay with my Mom and Stephen was going to pick him up from school and they would come to the hospital to see me. Well, things did not go as planned. Hunter had a really hard time with me being gone. The first night Stephen gave him a bath and told Hunter "come on let's hurry Daddy has to get up to the hospital with Momma" and Hunter started crying that he wanted Daddy there. So Stephen could not leave him like this. He was glad that he got to sleep with Daddy every night. Brian stepped in and stayed with me at the hospital reminding me all night long to put my oxygen tube on. He was a really great caregiver. Mom stayed with me the second night. She helped me to the bathroom and would get water for me and took really good care of me. Stephen would come during the day and help me shower and walk, then he would leave to go get Hunter from school and bring him back to the hospital to see me.
I have had some really good dinners made for me by my friends Michelle, Tammy, and Rachel. It is nice having dinner with dessert and knowing that my family is taking care of. So, thanks girls so much! I am very grateful that I have you in my life and I love y'all so much. There have been so many people calling to see if I need anything and that has been so nice. OK, I'm beginning to sound like I have won an award and recognizing all of the people in my life. No award, just some really caring and loving people who need to be recognized. The purpose of my blog is to look back on it 10 years from now and remember these little things.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Friday, March 12, 2010
Post Surgery
Tuesday I had surgery and spent three nights in the hospital. I have never been away from Hunter that long before. I think that we both were having withdrawals. I was able to come home this morning while Hunter was at school. I climbed into my bed and tried to get somewhat as comfortable as I possibly could. Hunter came in from school and immediately made a b-line for our bedroom. I was asleep so he crawled up in bed with me and gave me lots of love and preceded to tell me how much he missed me and he was so glad that I was home. I remember waking up with him sound asleep up under me. He has never done that before...take a nap when he got home from school.
While I was gone he was able to sleep with Daddy and he was really excited about that. He did not want to stay with anyone except Stephen, they had a really good time while I was gone and I knew that Hunter was very well taken care of. The only thing I had to concentrate on was getting my self well enough to come home and be with those that I love the most. My hospital room was really really nice and the nurses took very good care of me, but there is no place like home and I'm glad to be back.
Brian stayed with me one night and saw to it that I had my oxygen mask on the entire time. I fought with that stupid thing all night long. The next night my Mom stayed with me and took good care of me. I am so grateful to have so many people in my life who love me and take care of me. I am a very hard person to take care of because I want to be the one to take care of others and not them take care of me.
While I was gone he was able to sleep with Daddy and he was really excited about that. He did not want to stay with anyone except Stephen, they had a really good time while I was gone and I knew that Hunter was very well taken care of. The only thing I had to concentrate on was getting my self well enough to come home and be with those that I love the most. My hospital room was really really nice and the nurses took very good care of me, but there is no place like home and I'm glad to be back.
Brian stayed with me one night and saw to it that I had my oxygen mask on the entire time. I fought with that stupid thing all night long. The next night my Mom stayed with me and took good care of me. I am so grateful to have so many people in my life who love me and take care of me. I am a very hard person to take care of because I want to be the one to take care of others and not them take care of me.
Monday, March 8, 2010
What a beautiful day on Sunday. I have not been myself here lately. I'm not sure if it is because I'm getting a little nervous as surgery is quickly approaching or maybe it is because surgery needs to fix the things that are wrong with me. Anyway yesterday we had the in-laws over and I fixed a big lunch so the kids and husband were getting under my skin just a little (no fault of their own). Stephen decides that he needs to get the kids out of the house and away from me so they head to Home Depot. When they returned home Hunter comes running inside with a handful of butter cups. Talk about guilt...yes I was feeling really guilty. He was so excited that Daddy pulled over so that he could pick these off the side of the road. Britt and Brian helped as well, so Britt informed me that it was a joint effort.
I reallly hope that after surgery my moods will level out and I will not be so edgy all of the time. My poor family is suffering. I'm glad to know that even though I have not been in the best of moods lately...ok maybe for a long time now, my family still loves me. I am one lucky girl to have a gorgous, loving, sweet, husband and the most beautiful, sweet children who love me no matter how mean I am :)
I am not a fan of flowers because they cost to much money and wilt and die. However, these are the best flowers I could ask for. Picked right from the heart. I absolutely LOVE them! Thanks guys I love you so much...you are the best!
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Hunter's 5th birthday party
Man when we party...we really party. We celebrated Hunter's 5Th birthday on February 27Th and rented the entire skating rink. Stephen and I (more Stephen) were worried that we were not going to have many kids show up. Boy were we surprised. With the skating party it covers 30 people and we wanted to make sure that we got our money's worth. I think we did plus some. I had made 24 goody bags for the children and gave everyone of them away and was still short 3! Plus we had the parents who accompanied the children. I think total we had almost 50 people there.
We had a blast. Pizza, chips, cookies, cake, drinks, skates, and fun music now that is a party. Some of the guests had not been on skates since they were their children's age. We even had the grandparents on skates. Stephen and I decided after two injuries that night and the body aches the next day, next year skating was off limits to the grandparents. The only thing that we were missing was 80's and 90's music. Brittaney was running the music so she would not let us play old songs...party pooper! I laughed so hard at everyone, it was such a joy to see smiles on every one's face.
Someone please tell me why I have tried to do Hunter's parties at my house these past few years? Oh yeah because he is only 5! I think every year we will have skating parties. I know how much I love that little guy, but I was amazed at everyone else that loves him as well. Thank you so much everyone for sharing in his special day with us. He told me several times "Mommy dis is de best birtday ever". What a great feeling to know that you make your children happy.
Put your child on restriction and this is what you get...
Last week Brian was on restriction for the weekend. For something small, but I had to follow through with my discipline because I am a pushover when it comes to the kids. So, he decided to make dinner for everyone. I do not know if he was being nice, or trying to suck up so that I would let him off the handle. Either way dinner was absolutely delicious and very much appreciated. I really wish I would have taken pictures of the food on the grill, however I was slacking just slightly enjoying the break. He grilled filet mignon, shrimp, mushrooms and onions, made a few steak and shrimp kabobs, and a tossed salad. Not only did he make all of this, but he bought the steak for everyone.
I told him that he should do this more often. Cook that is not get on restriction. However, restriction was nice for Stephen and I because we were actually able to spend time with him. No wonder as a child we stayed on restriction so much...I understand my parents plans now. This coming week as I head into surgery Brian keeps assuring me that he has the kitchen part covered. I have been cooking meals and freezing them and he tells me "Heather, quit worrying I got this." As long as the kid has zesty Italian dressing he can make anything.
Thank you Brian dinner was great. I love you and am very thankful that I have you!
I told him that he should do this more often. Cook that is not get on restriction. However, restriction was nice for Stephen and I because we were actually able to spend time with him. No wonder as a child we stayed on restriction so much...I understand my parents plans now. This coming week as I head into surgery Brian keeps assuring me that he has the kitchen part covered. I have been cooking meals and freezing them and he tells me "Heather, quit worrying I got this." As long as the kid has zesty Italian dressing he can make anything.
Thank you Brian dinner was great. I love you and am very thankful that I have you!
Friday, February 19, 2010
It is so hard to believe how time flies. It seems as though yesterday the doctor's had told me that I could not have children and if I could conceive it would be very difficult. I have always dreamed of having children and my dreams were crushed. Seven years later my dream came true...I was pregnant. The memories are so clear and I think they will always be. I was put on bed rest the weekend before and went into the doctor on Monday (Valentines day) which he immediately sent me to labor and delivery to be put on complete bed rest. To the extreme that my lights and phones were turned off, I could not have any visitors, and I could not get out of bed for anything. I could not eat or drink and they immediately started administering steroids to build up Hunter's lungs. I was 32 weeks along and scared to death.
We were able to get by the rest of the week and I think that I was in denial. I knew that my blood pressure continued to spike since I was 22 weeks. This included urine and blood test every other week and a weekly visit to the perinatologist. When they admitted me into the hospital I thought they were just being precocious and wanting to monitor the baby and I since I do not do to well letting people help me out. Stephen stayed with me all week long and I kept telling him they were not going to deliver so he could go back to work. I felt great all throughout my pregnancy...I never got sick and I loved being pregnant! On Thursday evening we decided that he would return to work on Friday because I was sure they were going to let me go home. After all my baby shower was on Sunday.
Friday morning came and I was so ready to get some fresh air. I had not seen the doctor all morning, so I knew that things were not serious. The nurses would occasionally pop in and out to check on me, family and friends would call and I would tell them "well I'm probably going home today". Little did I know that I was in for the shock of my life. Around 3 p.m. the doctor came by and sat on the side of my bed and I will never forget the words "It's time to deliver". My blood pressure had spiked to 202/102, I was by myself and scared to death. I called Stephen and he was at the hospital within 30 minutes. I called my Mom and she dropped everything and headed to the hospital. I called my mother and sister in law and could not reach either of them. They were at Wal-Mart buying groceries, when I finally got in touch with them they ran home left Justin to put up the groceries and were there in a heartbeat. Everyone made it to the hospital so we were ready to go.
Stephen and I were terrified! Dr. Hinds explained to us that Hunter would probably go into the NICU and he assured us that if Hunter had to be transported out that we would go with him. My head started spinning and everything went extremely fast. I wanted Stephen by my side for everything. He kept telling me "your finally fixing to me a Momma" and all I could think about was is my baby going to be ok? I made sure to tell Stephen to go where ever Hunter went because I would be ok. He stayed by my side through it all. Hunter made his appearance at 5:17 p.m. They held him up to show Stephen and I and then took him away. I remember a room full of doctor's and nurses, but could not remember what my baby looked like. I had to be taken back to labor and delivery to be monitored so there fore I could not see my baby or hold him. I remember thinking to myself that delivery was not suppose to be like this. They are suppose to put the baby on your chest and you are suppose to bond with your baby right away. Not in my case.
Stephen was the best. He would continue to go to the nursery and took pictures of Hunter for me to show me what our little miracle looked like. I was devastated when I saw all of the tubes coming out of what seemed to be every orifice of his body. The pediatrician came in later in the evening after they assessed Hunter and gave Stephen and I an update. The next morning I was finally able to touch my baby. He had the sweetest hands, head full of hair, and the prettiest lips that I had ever seen. I was dying to kiss his lips, but I could not stimulate him at all. I could only talk to him and tell him how much I loved him and I was going to hold him soon and never let him go.
After 4 days it was time for me to be released from the hospital. My heart broke into a million pieces when I had to leave my sweet angel behind. They wheeled me out of the hospital in a wheel chair holding my pillow where my baby should have been. It was the worse day of my life so far. Stephen would go by the hospital in the mornings before work and make it to his 6 a.m. feeding and my sister in law would drive to my house and pick me up everyday and we would visit Hunter. Finally on Friday February 25Th it was time to release Hunter from the NICU and he went into the regular nursery. We were able to get a room back at the hospital and spend the weekend with him and on Sunday we all came home as a family.
What an experience Stephen and I went through, just another episode to bring us closer together. God definitely had his hand in this experience and gave me the greatest gift a women could ever have and that was being a mother...my greatest accomplishment!
Hunter as I look back over the last five years of my life they have been the best. I love being your Mommy and watching you grow everyday and experience life. You are the greatest blessing to Daddy and Mommy and we love you more than you will ever know. You are our little miracle baby in more ways than one. You light up our life and put a smile on our faces daily. Happy Birthday my sweet little angel, I love you more than you will ever know!
Love,
Mommy
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Valentine's Day
With Valentine's Day being on Sunday every woman is so excited I'm sure. I can not stand Valentine's Day! Yes, you heard it correctly I think Valentine's Day is the most ridiculous day ever! Stephen and I have the same opinion about it which is If you can not tell/show me everyday that you love me, well then don't tell me one day! It is a cute romance day for boyfriend/girlfriends, but that is it. Many of you will disagree, but I'm firm in my beliefs. I do buy a little valentine for my children though.
The other day Stephen and his Mom were having a conversation and I overheard it, It went something like this.
Stephen " Hey Momma guess where I'm taking Heather for Valentine's day?
( I quickly tuned in and was thinking to myself What? you know we don't celebrate that stupid day. But I was interested and thought he had something up his sleeve)
Momma "Aww that is nice where are you taking her?"
Stephen " To our living room because Nascar comes back on"
Momma "Well that's nice"
I could not help but laugh. He is a Nascar FANatic and looks forward to Sunday's so that he can watch the race. Thanks honey I really do love you and look forward to watching the race right beside you. Boogity, Boogity, Boogity...let's go racing.
The other day Stephen and his Mom were having a conversation and I overheard it, It went something like this.
Stephen " Hey Momma guess where I'm taking Heather for Valentine's day?
( I quickly tuned in and was thinking to myself What? you know we don't celebrate that stupid day. But I was interested and thought he had something up his sleeve)
Momma "Aww that is nice where are you taking her?"
Stephen " To our living room because Nascar comes back on"
Momma "Well that's nice"
I could not help but laugh. He is a Nascar FANatic and looks forward to Sunday's so that he can watch the race. Thanks honey I really do love you and look forward to watching the race right beside you. Boogity, Boogity, Boogity...let's go racing.
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